Monday, June 17, 2013

How Do We Know God Is Really There?

Apologia and Author Melissa Cain Travis and illustrator Christopher Voss bring us, How Do We Know God Is Really There?

The Apologia web page summarizes the story nicely: 

Thomas and his father escape to their backyard tree house most evenings to watch the night sky through a telescope. Thomas is dazzled by what he sees of God’s creation, but he has questions. “Dad, how do we know God is out there?” he asks one night. “I know the Bible says He’s there. But how do we really know that’s true?” Together, Thomas and his father begin to examine the cosmological evidence for God’s existence. This is the first in an exciting new series of picture books designed to introduce kids to important questions of the Christian faith in terms even pre-readers can understand. Read this aloud with your family, and you’ll come away knowing that “the heavens declare the glory of God and the skies proclaim the work of his hands.” (Psalm 19:1).

My homeschooler with autism has academic delays, and too many words on a page creates anxiety. She sometimes thinks that a book is too difficult if her "too many words on a page" meter sounds. How Do We Know God Is Really There is laid out nicely for a child whose anxiety rises with reading. The layout has text on one side of the page with an illustration on the other side.

How Do We Know God Is Really There introduces us to astronomer Edwin Hubble and his discovery "...that the galaxies in our universe are moving away from each other...and the farther apart the galaxies get, the faster they move."

I am challenged to explain to my daughter how God is with us without the idea of His being with us not being scary to her. I was hoping this story would get us a little closer to explaining it in a way she can be comfortable with. It is a start. And it's the first in a series. Perhaps the next books will help add to my daughter's understanding.

The hardback book is approximately 46 pages in length and is priced at $16.00.


Sunday, May 26, 2013

Reminiscing @ The Lion King

I took my two girls to see The Lion King on stage over the weekend.

I wanted to take them several years ago, but was not sure I could handle the challenges of autism at a show an hour away in a city unfamiliar to me. My girls would have enjoyed it back then, but it would have been too much work for me.

What if my girl were having an 'off'' day? Dysregulated? What if she hadn't slept the night before? An 'off' day for her could ruin the event. I refused to spend money on tickets that might be wasted.

The most work, back then, was the compensation I would have to do for her deficit in attention. Not only did I have to be in charge of my own attention, but I also had to be hers, too. It was exhausting. She could not stay with us, attend to us. She wasn't attached. (See this blog post for explanation.) I remember the time before a developmental approach (RDI) when all of my attention had to be on her because she did not attend to, was not attached to me, did not keep up with me, did not recognize my intent or agenda. Crowded theaters were a lot of work for me and we mostly avoided them. The work of keeping up with her was exhausting and often cancelled out any positive. Keeping her with me in the same stall while I used the restroom was a particular challenge.

When I learned last year that The Lion King was coming to the big town near us, I watched for the time when I could buy tickets. I got three seats in the lower level. We marked the event on the calendar between my birthday and my twins' birthday and we looked forward to the event.

And we went.

I had flashbacks to the years where we had to keep up with her; where I had to have a painfully tight grip on her wrist to keep her from leaving our group. The contrast between that memory and what was happening before my eyes over the weekend was striking.

We dressed up. Instead of my picking out her clothes for her, she chose her own outfit and dressed herself.

We attended a packed (maybe sold out) show and she was with her sister and me the whole time. WeGo. Together. Something parents of typical kids take for granted. The feeling was beautiful, magnificent.

One of my nightmare situations actually happened. She was tired. For some reason, she was awake most of the night. I think she slept between two and three hours the night before. I was concerned she'd be grumpy. She stayed regulated despite the lack of sleep.

We'd never been to this particular venue before. That creates anxiety for me and I wanted to stay regulated, too. I left early enough to pad the clock for an unexpected traffic jam or my getting lost, which meant we arrived too early. I bought us a program (cha-ching!) and we walked around the venue before the doors opened and we were allowed to go in.

Once seated, she was not thrilled about having to wait so long, but she did manage to hang in there even when the show began a few minutes late. I could tell she was tired. I told her she'd wake up when the show began - and she did.

Our seats in the lower level near an aisle allowed us to be close to the cast; the characters come down the aisles to enter the stage - she was enthralled. All of us were.

Her laughter during the show was sheer joy for me.

At intermission, she needed to use the restroom, which presented another challenge. We had to find the restroom in this new-to-us venue. The restrooms required quite a walk. And when we got there, she went into one stall while I had to wait a moment for someone to exit another stall a few doors down from hers. No problem. She finished first and waited for me. We washed our hands together.

Story changes? Would she handle changes to the beloved storyline she knows so well? She knows the story; she's seen all the Lion King movies a gazillion times (slight exaggeration). A song from Lion King 2 was featured in the stage show  - she kept telling me that song was from Lion King 2. :) There were some new (unfamiliar to us) songs written for the stage production and there were additions to the story line fill in background. She rolled with it.


We used valet parking and had to wait a while for our car to be brought to us. And she rolled with that, too. She talked with us about the show, she read the actors' bios from the program, she waited like a pro.

This weekend, we were three girls out for a fun night. And fun we had! She recognized the intent of our night out together, she was able to come alongside and join us in this abstract idea, coordinating and co-regulating, seamlessly 'non-verbaling', responsible for her own attention in a big way. I am so grateful.


On the ride home from Lion King, my kid w/ autism even talked about when she was in a play for the first time - it was an opera (yes, an opera) in kindergarten or first grade. Oh, the things she remembers that she can finally tell us about now.

Yes, we still have a long way to go. (Yes, I was taking notes; I have a short list of things I want to work on that came from our night out.) But she has come soooooooooo far. Going back for the joint attention pieces, the co-regulating and coordinating, etc, has made such a difference.

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Happy Birthday to ME!

I had a milestone birthday this week. Look what my kid w/ autism left on my pillow for me to find. She wrote a poem for me. :)

My Homeschool Grades, a Mosaic Review

Homeschool reporting requirements differ by state; some states require no reporting at all. Until we moved to a state with requirements, grade reporting software was not on my radar.

Lately, I find myself less than enthusiastic about learning to use a new forum or software or data entry program. Maybe it's because I'm getting old and set in my ways. Learning a new program is really low on my list of things I want to do.  And if I'm going to USE the program, it must be easy, have a very short learning curve for me.  I don't have time to teach myself some complicated program.

Enter My Home School Grades, an online reporting system developed by homeschoolers. I was given access to MHSG to use and review. I have a grade reporting program that comes with our umbrella school membership, so I have something for comparison.  And I was pleasantly surprised. I set up our school and two students rather quickly, added curriculum, grades. My Home School Grades is extremely user-friendly and I didn't spend a lot of time trying to teach myself what has to happen next. MHSG gives users four videos to walk us through how to set up students, add grades, classes, activities, and make transcripts.  The site is very straightforward. I like that.

The one wrinkle: I am not giving my kids letter grades this year. We are going through material for mastery and are using terms "incomplete", "in progress", "satisfactory", and finally "pass", and MYSG does not allow me to use those terms; instead, MHSG records grades as letters or numerals. Within each of my students' records, MHSG gives me this Tip: Grades can be entered as letters (A+, A), as numbers (96), or as fractions (16/19). You can change how they are displayed in your account settings.


When my homeschoolers reach high school, I will switch to letter grades, and the grading system within MHSG will be useful for our family.

A lifetime membership is priced at $49.99. (A bargain. For one year, I subscribed to another grade-reporting site that charged $10 a year.)  My Home School Grades offers a 14-day trial membership to allow you to try before you buy.


Friday, May 10, 2013

Coffeeproof Waterproof Bible

A Waterproof Bible? Seriously?

I'd seen ads for it. I thought that it is a cute gimmick or perhaps a gift for the Christian who has every other Bible. Really? Why would you want a waterproof Bible outside of a novelty? I wasn't impressed, really. And then I got an opportunity to review a New Testament/Psalms & Proverbs King James version ($24.99) courtesy of Bardin&Marsee Publishing

The Waterproof Bible arrived and my children were enthralled. My son said he would have taken off with it and kept it for himself were it not pink. ;)  (We received this one.) It looks like a regular Bible. I don't think I'd recognize it as special or different or waterproof at first glance.

We don't camp. Outdoor swim/pool season isn't upon us yet. So, I took the Waterproof  Bible to the obvious place: the bathtub. I had to take my reading glasses along as I can't read tiny print without some magnification, now.

When I finally got time to soak in the tub, I settled in and opened the Bible. I didn't worry about wet fingers turning pages. I dribbled water on it gently. Bardin&Marsee sent a couple of waterproof bookmarks with the Bible and I submerged them. Impressive. They held up with no signs of having been dunked. I was hooked.

My teen with autism wanted a turn. She has become more independent in bathing and showering but still needs to be monitored and I drew her a bath and left the door slightly ajar so I could keep an eye on her. The idea of completely submerging God's Word goes against everything in me, but my daughter has no such qualms, and I could see through the crack in the door her lift the Bible above her head and then push it completely under water. I heard the gurgle of the water as it went under. She baptized it. Yes, she did. And it survived.

A novelty for her? Yes. But much more.

She's 'captive' (not literally) in the bathtub. Her attention is captive, anyway, with no big distractions. After she dunked the Bible, I gave her a verse to look up and read to me, walked her through how to find the chapter and the verse. I gave her the obvious, John 3:16, and we talked about what it means.

She read a little in it. I wish we'd have been given a more modern translation and may order one for her, as having a bathtub friendly version is really attractive to me for a child with autism who finds reading challenging. The novelty of reading in the tub and not worrying about ruining the pages, the tactile input from the water (and epsom salts) all provide a setting for learning we had not been able to explore before.

Through the bathroom door, I asked her if she could think of reasons people might need a waterproof Bible. Yes, I always take opportunities to perspective-take with my child on the autism spectrum.  We created a list out loud.  Swimmers. Campers. People in the rain. People who work outdoors. Water slide lovers. Water park lovers. For every boy and girl who like to take baths and showers. It is safe in the snow or at the ice skating arena in a bag that contains wet or damp items.

My Waterproof Bible was moved to the edge of my bathroom sink and in a moment of stupidity while getting ready for church the next day while picking up a flat iron, I accidentally knocked the Bible into the sink topped with an entire cup of coffee (with cream and sugar). I experienced a moment of panic as I wondered if it would survive my morning moment of liquid goodness. I rinsed it off, wiped it down, we were good to go.

My high schooler found a favorite verse to underline. She wanted to test smudge-ability. Waterproof Bible passed that test. I took it to church and wrote notes in the margins during a sermon from Psalms. Thumbs up.

We have been impressed by the toughness of the Waterproof Bible. It can go from the kitchen table to the baseball gear bag without concerns that we'll spill milk on it or tear it up with equipment. The pages are tough for the kid who is rough and tumble, too.

If you are looking for a durable Bible for any reason, I recommend the Waterproof Bible. We think it's great!

Friday, May 3, 2013

Checking Behind Me...

Teaching perspective taking to a child with autism is always interesting. One place that my princess misunderstands my non-verbal communication is when I am behind the wheel of a car.

No, I am not making one-finger salutes to cars around me. ;)

When I look over my shoulder to check my blind spot before changing lanes while I am driving, my princess always asks a pointed, "WHAT?!" as if I am turning around to check on her.

Sometimes I would ignore her. Sometimes I would try to explain that I was checking behind me. None of that registered with her.

Lately, she's begun demanding, "WHAT?!" as I back out of a driveway or parking spot. And at first, I tried to explain what I was doing. Duh. What was I thinking?

I have begun giving her a role when I am backing out of a driveway or parking space. "Is there anything behind me? Is it clear behind me?" I will ask her. At first, she would flip her head around quickly and answer, "No." or "All clear!"  But I don't want her doing a simple gross motor imitation. I want her thinking. So I wait, frozen like a statue, to give her time to turn around again and look for a car behind me. And she has begun to look around with me to check for things behind me as I back out.

Two little victories, one for me, one for her.

Monday, April 22, 2013

Hey God, I've Got Some Guy Named Jonah in My Stomach and I Think I'm Gonna Throw Up!

I don't think I've ever wondered about the fish's perspective in the Bible story about Jonah until now. Troy Schmidt gives us a cute story that is illustrated by Cory Jones that does just that: Hey God, I've Got Some Guy Named Jonah in My Stomach and I Think I'm Gonna Throw Up!

Published by BH Kids, Hey God, I've Got Some Guy Named Jonah in My Stomach and I Think I'm Gonna Throw Up! is a 28 page hardback priced at $9.99. The illustrations are kid-friendly for such an icky subject. (Can you imagine being in the belly of a whale?)

A first in a series of books for children, Hey God, I've Got Some Guy Named Jonah in My Stomach and I Think I'm Gonna Throw Up! offers an unusual look into the Jonah story. The whale is not happy about having Jonah inside him for three days, and we get to see how God used the water creature in this part of His plan.

My child w/ autism always needs practice in perspective taking. What better way to perspective-take than to use a familiar story, Jonah, and look at it from the perspective of another of the players. How fun to imagine what a whale might have thought! We've had a fun time talking through this one, and the way my daughter's mind works, she will revisit the story in the future as she processes more and more of it. I'm looking forward to Hey God, Can You Stop the Rain so I Can Get off Noah's Smelly Ark? and Hey God, I'm Having an Awful Vacation in Egypt Thanks to Moses!

My child w/ autism, really too old chronologically but not too old developmentally for this book, is working on the concept of obedience. Jonah's story is about obedience, and the whale's story is, too. We are able to relate real-life moments to choose obedience to this story book. I like that. I think younger, typically developing children will love the story.

 
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Wednesday, April 10, 2013

Apologia Planners - Mosaics Review








Debra Bell and Apologia have created yet another wonderful resource for us, this time, planners for Mom and students that form a planning system based upon what Bell used with her children as she homeschooled them.

We were given to review The Ultimate Homeschool Planner ($28.00); the ultimate daily planner for students ($19.00); and The Ultimate Weekly Planner for Teens ($19.00).

In the past, I've not used a planning system; instead, my planner has been digital, a planner that allows me to work online or print just the pages I wanted.  I could go loose leaf or work from a binder. I tend to be a loosey-goosey, fly by the seat of my pants kind of homeschool mom/teacher (which I admit does bite me in the rear sometimes).

Bell's planning system, by contrast, is a hard copy, spiral bound, the pages lie flat and stay together. It is designed to be very flexible, accommodating families who homeschool year round, or those who follow a traditional school year, allowing for those who do some schooling every single day and those who school during the week with occasional weekend days - it flexes with who we are and how our families work.

Bell coaches and teaches all of us. Here's one of my favorite pages, one of the very pieces we are working on with my newer homeschooler this school year:

My son and I talked about how I notice he relies on rote memorization and he sometimes misses context and that one of my goals for him is to work on a different kind of comprehension and learning. He rewarded me with eyeball rolling. Debra Bell put into words a conversation I had with my son in the fall.

Bell's planning system is also designed to raise independent students. We need help with that. With a child with autism, we are definitely on the slow track in that regard (and that's okay!).  She spotlights counting blessings and recording progress within the planner as well. The St Augustine quote, "Order brings peace." challenges me from the inside cover of The Ultimate Homeschool Planner.

My big challenge is the child with autism. She is an unschooler, our homeschool with her is relaxed. Forcing her to complete x number of pages to read in a day or to complete x number of worksheets is a disaster. Following her interests with my providing lots of resources and activities works for us; her reading has improved dramatically (I have achievement testing to show this fact) and she is slowly yet steadily growing in understanding of math. She jots down books read or activities on a page-a-day calendar. In a conference call with Mosaics members, Bell suggests not requiring an early elementary school student to do the writing, especially until the child's fine motor skills are developed, and to give them checklists, instead. That is a good idea, especially for children with special needs and developmental delays.

Neither typically developing teen wanted to switch planners in the middle of the school year (can you believe that!?) although we used the information in them quite a bit. One afternoon, my public schooler wanted a periodic chart - guess what? It's in the teen planner. Bell has given us quite a few helpful academic resources in the backs of the planners.

If you have a middle schooler and are wondering about the difference between the student planner and the teen planner, the teen planner is more geared to the high schooler, and the student planner is more appropriate for middle and elementary schoolers. If you have a middle schooler doing some high school level work, I'd recommend buying the high school planner. And if you have a high schooler who prefers a daily planner, then get the student planner (the teen planner is weekly).

The planning system comes undated. You get to set it up to begin when you choose and end when you choose, skip summer months without wasting pages if you choose. My public schooled sophomore absolutely loved that it isn't dated and she gets to fill in the dates. We all appreciate the addition of the straight edge/plastic ruler included inside the front covers of the student and teen planner.

Bell gives us lots of little details that, in my opinion, make the system live up to the description, "ultimate". SAT words in the teen planner. U.S. president trivia in the student planner. Bible verses in all of the planners. Inspirational quotes in the mom and teen planners. A place to note quiet time and places to doodle.

 The circles divided into quarters to keep track of time spent on a subject or activity - *brilliant*.

I will be very honest with my readers. A planning system like this one makes me feel like a failure. Less than. I have a child with autism who does not fit into a neurotypical planner.  I can plan and plan and write it down and wind up not checking off a lot of the items on my list. Some days my girl's neurology works for her better than others. I also have no idea how long learning a concept will take. Sometimes, I give up. Sometimes we work a long time on one concept. We work on her timetable. So, I quit planning tightly. I have a general idea of what we will do.

Bell offers a lot for families with children with special needs, homeschoolers or not. The student and teen planners frame and scaffold the planning and organization experience, the executive function pieces that so many of 'our' kids need to practice. She gives our students a visual framework from which to work and plan and she sets parents in a position within the system to be guide the child heavily at first in a way that the child can be given more responsibility for herself as she is ready for it. She lists steps to independence on page 9 of the mom planner.

I have lots of favorites in the planning system. Perhaps my very most favorite piece is the area Bell gives me to document memorable moments (Family funnies-Victories-Progress-Promising signs-Small beginnings-Finished projects) and evidences of grace (Evidence of God's grace-God's mercy-God's faithfulness-God's protection - God's provision) in my planner. In fact, for a special needs learner, I could use more space here!



Bell gives me pages of info and how-to with clear examples in the front of my planner and she motivates me. I really like Bell's suggestion of a planning weekend/retreat; I like her recommendation that we sit down with each child once a week (she likes Monday mornings, which makes sense) to preview the week together and to check in at the end of the week. In the back of my planner are charts and resources along with information about learning styles, reluctant learners, thinking skills. She gives me room to record my year end review.

If you are in a state where turning in a planner is required, you're all set with this planning system. If you are trying to be a better record keeper (raising my hand), I think you'll appreciate the planning system. Student planners will be useful to school-building schoolers as well.

The planners are attractive and lie flat to photocopy pages if the need arises.

I like how Bell has created a package based on a system that she used successfully and I like how she teaches me to use each piece of the system with my kids. She sets us all up for success and gives us the flexibility to work with typical kids or kids with special needs who are working and learning very differently form one another.

If you are looking for a planning system, please take a serious look at this one from Apologia and Debra Bell. I think you'll like it.

Friday, April 5, 2013

Spring...Finally!


I got to walk a few laps today...

...while my 'Rella spent some time on a swing!

Thursday, March 28, 2013

Home Run


My son is a baseball nut. He eats, sleeps, breathes, plays baseball. And the child needs reading material. He is homeschooled this year, after all. When I was offered the opportunity to review Home Run, I took it. (I was given a copy of the book in exchange for a review here. I am not obligated to provide a positive review and the thoughts here are my own.)

Home Run gives readers insight into a horrible childhood for two brothers, one of them destined for celebrity. Home Run is the story of Cory Brand, a star in anything and everything baseball and a bit of a mess everywhere else. He drinks too much, he has a problem with alcohol, he is disconnected from family, and lets his agent do all of the hard work of cleaning up the messes he leaves behind.

Brand's latest mess has his agent sending him back to his hometown to a 12-step program and to coach a boys' baseball team to both clean up and to make right a wrong he committed.

Home Run tells the story of how Cory Brand became a changed man. His journey is not an easy one and the book shows us the relationships that made a difference along the way.

I enjoyed the story. I started the book late one night and finished it the next day. I couldn't put it down. No "dirty" parts, no cursing, yet the subject matter is serious.  I handed it off to my son. He and I have had some interesting discussions about the events in the book. We are never too messed up to change, to be redeemed.

Stay tuned - the movie version will be released in April!



About the Author
Travis Thrasher is the author of more than a dozen works of fiction, including The Solitary Tales series, Isolation, and Ghostwriter. His writing is known for its honesty, depth, and surprising twists. Thrasher lives with his wife and daughters in Chicago
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