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The 3-Minute Difference

I didn't have time or energy to review books, yet when "The 3-Minute Difference" popped up as a review opportunity, I couldn't turn it down after I read the book description.   I'm disorganized and overweight, for starters, and attempts to address those challenges are overwhelming to me.  I sometimes wonder what is wrong with me that I cannot fix myself.

Wayne Nance's life was out of control once. He smoked. He was obese. His marriage was a mess and he was in debt. And he found a way out. He says he can help others out, too.

I was interested.

First is the 3-Minute Survey. I described myself by choosing from lists of adjectives and sent my choices off to be assessed. The whole thing seemed a little bit hokey to me, a little "cootie catcher" to me, but I was willing to see what Nance says the choices I made describing myself say about me.

I was not ready for the results. Well, in some ways I was ready. In others, not. I'm not sure how choosing a few adjectives while ignoring other adjectives gives Nance that much insight into a person.

He *nailed* me. And he opened a door to insight and perspective about myself that I recognize is there that will help me move forward. 

Let me give you an excerpt from the book, from page 87: "This means that 40% of the population is not predisposed to what we call 'responsibility.' ... Practically speaking, your wiring puts you at risk for lifestyle problems like obesity and debt."  That insight is power.  If I am not predisposed to responsibility, I have to work harder at being responsible and I need to KNOW that I have to work harder at it.

"3-Minute Difference" walks the reader through finding his or her pattern and in families, how individual patterns work together in a family unit.

And Nance takes me through the challenging steps that will change me for the better.  I have to change my attitude.  And I can change my life. 

You'll have to stay tuned because I am a work in progress. Nance's words make sense and he breaks things down in a way that I can begin to apply. I still feel like a bit of a failure because I don't seem to be moving fast enough for me. I can't let my own thoughts bring me down, and Nance reminds me to concentrate on the successes, even when they are few or small.

The survey is HERE.

http://www.reallifeattitude.com/the-3-minute-difference.html

The book is priced at $16.99 and Nance includes the survey in the book and he walks you through interpreting your "score" (your pattern).  Or you may choose to take the survey online and choose from report options there.

I like the insight into myself.  I like the encouragement.  I like the way Nance walks me through steps and goal setting.  It seems doable and within my reach, and practical.  Thumbs up.

In Search of New Recipes

We are still stuck in a rut (again. or still). I make the same handful of meals over and over. We are tired of the same old same old, and I continue to look for recipes that might please my picky eaters while fitting the dietary restrictions of one child.

I have to make a cake or cupcakes for a birthday party later this week that my GFCF+++er will attend. 

Eldest and I headed to the local library for the first time to look for books to check out. I have borrowed e-books for my e-reader, but had not borrowed any hardbacks or paperbacks until now.

 I borrowed Carol Fenster's "Cooking Free"; Leslie Hammond & Lynne Marie Rominger's "the Kid-Friendly Food Allergy Cookbook"; Donna Washburn and Heather Butt's, "125 Best Gluten-Free Recipes"; Roben Ryberg's, "The Gluten-Free Kitchen"; and "Slow Cooker Revolution" by America's Test Kitchen.

Right off the bat, I find Coq Au Vin in the Fenster book, but Fenster says "It's absolutely delicious and perfect for a fall or winter day."  I would prefer not to heat the oven and have the oven competing with the air conditioning on this hot July day.  If I save the recipe, will I remember to try it in fall or winter?  And why did the publisher of this cookbook separate recipes in such a way that the directions are on the back of the ingredient page?

Fenster's "Cooking Free" offers 200 recipes that are not simply gluten free, they are for folks with multiple food allergies.  So is "the Kid-Friendly Food Allergy Cookbook" by Hammond and Rominger.

"125 Gluten-Free Recipes" has a good number of recipes we can use, although some use milk products.

Ryberg's "The Gluten-Free Kitchen" offers 135 recipes that are just gluten free. If you are more than gluten free, you'll need to know how to substitute. 

I think I'll spend some time with the slow cooker cookbook.  America's Test Kitchen has not failed me yet, and they tend to produce more recipes that don't use cream-of-something soup or flour.  They tend to publish recipes that are good as-is or are easy to substitute.

"I found them! I found them!"

a WOW moment. Actually, SEVERAL wow moments...

We went to see the new Ice Age movie with a friend that A. met at camp for kids w/ special needs.

In the movie, the good guys are adrift on the ocean and happen upon some Sirens who have transformed themselves into attractive animals, who are making beautiful music, saying beautiful words, . Manny, (mammoth played by Ray Romano), realizes that they are Sirens and that they are in trouble if they are drawn by the beauty of their songs, so he stuffs leaves in his ears to muffle the sound.

As we were riding home from the movie, my daughter - the one who regressed into autism after her first birthday - asked what those creatures were. "Sirens," I explained, from Greek Mythology, and their songs were so beautiful that they could capture sailors that way.

She thought for a moment, and then exclaimed in a big voice, "OH, SO *THAT'S* WHY MANNY PUT LEAVES IN HIS EARS!"

 So many times, for a kid on the autism spectrum, an action has no meaning. Manny stuffing leaves into his ears is simply Manny stuffing leaves into his ears. Context and past experience come together with actions to create meaning, and today, she made a connection that delighted me! Now, she is going through her books on Greek Mythology to try to find some information on the Sirens and she's looking on the internet for info about them. When she found Sirens on the internet, she exclaimed, "I found them! I found them!"

Active Participation - Gentle Discipline In Action

I stumbled across a facebook page called Janet Lansbury - Elevating Childcare that comes from a developmental perspective. It is something that would have helped me eight years ago in our do-over, eight years ago when we switched away from a behavioral autism intervention to a developmental, relationship-based intervention.

Back then, we were encouraged to watch younger children, to study the non-verbal foundations of interaction and communication that our kids missed (or lost in regression). I still watch neurotypical children for cues and clues to better use myself with my girl who is on the autism spectrum.

I am happy to tell you, Janet Lansbury posted a video on facebook today that may help you on your journey.

The link is HERE.  Watch how the teacher slows her pace to allow each child to interact, non-verbally.  Watch how she waits for each child to offer his/her own hands to be wiped.  Watch how she scaffolds an interaction by opening the banana and then allowing one of the children to strip the peel away.  The teacher stays close, she uses few words, she is big on actions, and she works at a pace that allows each child to be an active participant with her.  Not once does she assume a child won't respond.  Not once does she rush through hand wiping and wipe the hands of a child who has not yet engaged.

Beautiful.

Lycra Hammock

In the category of DIY Sensory, this hammock is in the office of our 'autism' consultant. Four bolts, and layers of different lengths of brightly colored lycra are all it takes. I'd like one at my house.

Teenage Driving

"There needs to be a teenage driving lane on the highway, and it's just lined with mattresses and tires." -- Bill Engvall

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Side by Side

I am counting the offering at Vacation Bible School again this year. We have a stellar counting team of three and finished an hour early today. With some free time, I spent some time people watching as people went through the halls. (Actually, I was waiting for a teen that I was to deliver to a swim meet in the middle of VBS. I got to do people watching while I waited since we finished stacking, wrapping, counting the offering.)

Two teenage girls caught my eye. They whizzed quickly around a corner and walked past me, shoulders touching, two young women completely in sync. They were deep in conversation; I'm not sure they knew I was there. They navigated a couple of steps together, dodged people walking toward them, navigated another corner, and stayed physically in sync the entire time.

Multi-tasking. Coordinating actions. Co-regulating. Moving together, in sync, a common location in mind (probably the snack room), the same pace, moving, talking, turn taking, interacting, seamlessly.

Quite a contrast to the blog post I wrote recently about a very different couple that I observed.

The non-verbal pieces are really important for our kids on the autism spectrum. Making sure they get practice and experience in the multi-tasking, coordinated actions, co-regulation is not high on a lot of lists of professionals and teachers, but it should be.

Two-wheeler

A memory that I revisited today. Glad I found the video.

There are classes to teach bike riding to children with special needs.  When I see ads for those classes, I am always reminded of how different our kids are.  Maybe you've heard the saying, "You've seen one kid with autism, you've seen one kid with autism."  True.  The challenges our kids face are quite individual.  So are the strengths.  My kid all of a sudden demanded the training wheels be removed from her bike.  And within minutes, she was riding it.  Blew us away.

26- April-2008
She demanded the training wheels be gone and she got on the bike and rode it.