The Shadow of a Doubt

Homeschooling. Run-ins with a bully's mom at the ballpark. Choosing what behavior to address and what to ignore, and worrying about what folks will think about what I choose (for now) to ignore (because it's not developmentally appropriate to address it without dealing with something foundational first).

I have doubts. Thanks, Scott Noelle, for this reminder.

:: The Shadow of a Doubt ::

If you're worried about what others think of your
parenting, consider this:

MAYBE they're judging you; maybe not. But *you* are
DEFINITELY judging yourself!

Your emotional reaction (worry) is the tip-off to your
self-judgment. If you were absolutely confident in
your parenting, you might be *aware* of others judging
you, and that would inform your choices, but it
wouldn't get under your skin.

This doesn't mean you should try to eliminate all
doubt. Uncertainty is a necessary part of any
leading-edge path. It makes you a better learner.

When you embrace doubt and practice being "confidently
uncertain," you'll stop needing others' approval.
Better yet, some of them will drop their judgments and
grow to appreciate or even emulate your ways!

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