Monday, June 1, 2009

What To Share With Others About Your Child

A Guide To What To Share With Others About Your Child,
by Communicating Partner's
Dr James D MacDonald

Welcome to Summer,

Since you and your child may be spending time with some new people or family this summer, you will have the chance to invite them to help your child interact and communicate more. The hopefully more relaxed times of summer often help children make real gains in socializing.

As your child meets more and more people, you can help him a great deal by coaching family and friends in ways that help him socialize and communicate. The more people he interacts with the more he will learn and the and less alone he will be.

Anyone who knows your child can help.

You might begin with a few suggestions, such as

“ Say one thing them wait for him” or
“ Make the sounds he makes.” or
“ Talk about what he is doing” or
“ Question less and comment more” or
“ You don’t have to talk, playing quiet will help him.”
“ He does best when you act like him.” And
“ She can do a lot more than you may expect.”

Show and discuss this with anyone spending much time with your child— family, sitters, teachers, and aides. Keep this list in your purse or wallet so you get in the habit of changing your child’s world in his favor. Be proud of your child and find new friends for him or her.

Let us know how it works.

Dr. Jim


When a child is delayed or not socially outgoing, he or she needs people to interact in different ways than is typical. When a child has autism pdd, aspergers, Down syndrome, cerebral palsy or other conditions effecting communication, they have special needs of their life partners if they are to learn and build relationships with them. Think of the guides below similar to ones you would give to people if you had a child with diabetes, heart problems, allergies, special fears, or different learning styles. For example, for a diabetic child, you would let everyone know how to and how not to feed and treat them. Similarly with “late talking children” we need to let their life partners know how to interact so the child will show his best and so they will truly see what the child can really do.

HELLO! You can really help my child develop. You do not need training; you just need to be his partner. The more real friends he has now, the more he will learn and fit in the world.

Thanks for connecting and helping my child grow.

“_____’__” Family.

*My child can do more than you think!

*My child will learn, communicate and care about you more when you do some of the following:

*Interact WITH not AT my child.

*Enter physically in his world and observe him silently for a short while.

*Become aware of his interests and ability level.

*Then, gently join into his activity without disrupting it.

*Do what the child is doing.

*Do not do a lot more than he is doing- but be active.

*Match his movements; act in ways he can try to do.

*Respond to his movements with similar, related movements.

*Talk about the here and now, about the child’s experiences.

*Be animated: be more interesting than what is distracting him.

*Do more of what you do when he stays with you

*Do less of what you do when he leaves you.

*Match his speech: talk in ways he can now talk (this will help him talk more.)

*Respond to his speech: show him you are interested.

*Wait silently for him to take his turn

*Don’t just praise him: enjoy him instead; your response is the best reward.

*Take turns with action and talk: be sure to give and take.

*If you don’t understand him, treat it as a foreign language and simply give him an English word that fits the situation.

*Limit your questions and demands: comment instead.

*Bottom line: the more you enjoy each other, the more my child will learn with you.


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